"Therapy isn't so much about what I think, as what you do.... we don't always know what it is we're thinking or feeling. When you have a guide, it's easier to figure things out. You'll often discover that you already know what to do. I can help you ask questions and go places you might not have on your own."
-Richelle Mead, Author
"“In my early professional years I was asking the question: How can I treat, or cure, or change this person? Now I would phrase the question in this way: How can I provide a relationship which this person may use for his own personal growth?”
- Dr. Carl Rogers, Ph.D., American Psychologist
For those of you who are interested in my background, I earned my Bachelor’s Degree in Psychology from the University of California, at Santa Cruz. Then I earned my Master’s Degree as well as my degree as a Doctor of Psychology from Alliant International University. I conducted the research for my doctorate on the Job Stress and Relationship Satisfaction of Correctional Employees. I have also presented my findings at research conference and am in the process of getting my work published.
I have spent most of my life helping others. I began volunteering when I was in the fifth grade; during high school, I volunteered at local hospitals. I began my career in Mental Health, by working as a social media liaison for the Domestic Abuse Hotline for Men and Women. I began working as a therapist at a county funded agency in Sacramento call Turning Point, specifically their Pathways program, which catered to homeless individual and families. After spending a few years at Turning Point, I decided to pursue a position working in a private practice setting. From there, I began practicing at Sunset Counseling Center in Rocklin, and now I solely work for my own practice, which has been my goal since 2004, when I first decided I wanted to become a therapist.
My approach to therapy is somewhat unique. I believe in the importance of empowerment and hope. I can’t make you change or grow, but I can do everything in my power to provide an environment that facilitates and promotes change. Many clients come to me in a hopeless state, so I also see it as my job, and more importantly my honor, to hold on to hope for them. As long as there is any ounce of desire and will, then there is hope for change. Now that I have discussed some of the things I do, I believe it is also important for you to know about some of the things I will not do.
There are 3 things I will not do in therapy:
1. I will not ask you, "So how did that make you feel?" While it is probably the most cliché phrase connected to therapy, I do not use it. Please don't misunderstand, we will talk about your feelings and emotions; you talk about them every day. My focus is on helping you understand what you are feeling, what is triggering that feeling, and most importantly, what are you going to do with it. Feelings in and of themselves are not good or bad; it is what we do with them that matters.
2. I am not going to judge you. It is not in my nature to judge; but beyond that, it is my belief that everyone is doing the best, with what he/she has. The goal then becomes to give people better tools, not to judge them for what they do not have.
3. I am not going to tell you what to do. My style and approach is not to dictate how you run your life, because at the end of the day, it is your life. You are the one who has to live with the decisions you make, not me. Instead of giving orders, I choose to give suggestions. I suggest things for you to try or to consider, based on my knowledge, education, and experience. What you do with my suggestions, is a choice only you get to make.
Overall, I would say I have a laid-back approach to therapy. I will challenge you when you’re ready, because only through unease do we find incentive to change, but I challenge in a subtle and caring way. Moreover, therapy will always focus on what you deem is a problem. I will not dictate to you what is or is not a problem because unless it is causing you discomfort, you have no reason or incentive to change it.